Everything You Know About Porn Is a Lie, According to a Porn Director

August 28, 2015
Seymore Butts drops truth bombs about big penises, female ejaculation, and more.

This article was written by Seymore Butts for MensHealth.

To the typical civilian watching porn, the stars can come across as sexual superheroes. I know this because I was once a civilian watching a lot of porn.

I still remember the thoughts that ran through my head back then: "How does he do that? Jeez, his penis is big! Wow, look at her perfect body! She’s insatiable!"

And that’s a good thing. As a director, I hope that’s what viewers are thinking when watching one of my movies. I plan, cast, shoot, direct, and edit them specifically to induce those type of thoughts. I create fantasies.

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he problems start when viewers forget that these are fantasies and lose perspective. They have insecurities about themselves and their own sexual abilities. They start thinking things like, "I wish my penis was that big! I wish my girlfriend would do that! I wish I could be that spontaneous and erect on demand!"

Well, guess what? The porn you see on your computer or TV screens isn't an accurate reflection of what happens in real life. I don’t just mean your life; I’m talking about the porn actors creating all that impossible sex you’re watching. You’re only seeing a small fraction of what really went on.

Prepare to learn some hard truths.

Yes, most of the male performers in porn have large salamis. You may be impressed with their size, but you know who isn’t as excited by a gigantic cock? The women in porn.

There are only a certain percentage of women who can actually handle and enjoy an abnormally large bratwurst. I encounter situations like this constantly when I’m filming, and I see the signs when I watch others adult movies.

There’s the obvious grimace of pain on the actress’ face—because he’s way too big for her and it hurts—or the less obvious woman’s hand on the man’s hip to prevent him from penetrating too deep.

I usually edit out these “pain indicators” because, at least for me, it’s distracting. It takes away from the fantasy and just reminds you that these are actors doing a job—and sometimes that job can be a pain in the ass...or vagina.


We have become accustomed to watching porn studs pound away at their costars for anywhere from 20 to 60 minutes.

What you don’t see is what happens before the cameras start rolling—like the pill popping and penis injecting. In my experience, 95 percent of the male performers use some sort of erectile-enhancement medication, and the ones who don’t are at the bottom of the totem pole.

You only see the finished product, so you don’t see all the stopping and starting that happens during a shoot. There are breaks to eat and drink, or catch their breath, or regain an erection, which could also mean popping another pill or sticking another needle into the base of the performer’s penis.

There are bathroom breaks and re-lubing breaks and still-picture-taking breaks. It’s endless.

Truth be told, neither the male or female performers are actually going at it nonstop for anywhere near the periods of time that it seems.

And while many of the male performers are able to last an abnormally long time, under what seem to be the most pleasurable of circumstances, there are consequences.

I dare any man to have sex for long periods of time, six to seven days per week, over a 60-day period. See what happens to your penis.

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Now imagine engaging in that amount of sexual activity over a period of years. With such a workload placed on it, the male performers’ penises become desensitized to the point where many of them can’t actually ejaculate while having sex.

They need to pull out and reach orgasm manually, or even worse, they develop a tolerance for the erectile dysfunction medications and can’t get it up at all—for work or play.


Sex in porn is designed to look spontaneous, but nothing could be further from the truth. Especially when it comes to anal sex.

Before a scene, female performers have a lot of advanced prep, from doing several enemas (you need to make sure that gigantic cock she's barely tolerating doesn't unleash a tsunami of fresh shit) to reducing or eliminating food consumption anywhere between four to 12 hours before their call time. Because, well, there's nothing worse than shooting an anal scene with an actress who’s full of shit.

Think about that the next time you’re watching sphincter-stretching porn. The actress is probably starving—on the set, we can almost hear her stomach growling—and she's had more enemas that morning than the residents of a nursing home.


Sure, there are female performers in it purely for the sex, but they are few and far between.

My experience tells me that the majority of women are in porn for the money first, followed closely by the adulation, then the freedom, and then the sex.

Some of them don’t enjoy any of the sex. Some of them are strictly heterosexual and don’t enjoy other girls. Some are lesbians and don’t enjoy sex with guys. Some of them find many of the people they are asked to have sex with unattractive.

But they do it anyway, and they do it well. They have learned to fake it.

Directors ultimately don’t care, as long as the performer has the ability to act as if she’s enjoying everything she’s doing, which the successful ones do. We know that with good shooting and some creative editing, you’ll never be able to tell the difference.


There’s some debate about whether female ejaculation is even possible But I can tell you that when it comes to squirting in porn movies, what you see isn’t always what you get.

 For every genuine “squirting” scene, there are many, many instances where the girl is actually urinating or we take a break from filming so the actress can fill her vagina with water using a turkey baster.

Yep, that actually happens.

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Despite the fact that all performers are tested every 14 to 30 days, curable STDs are rampant within the industry. I know of some performers who catch them so often, they have developed a tolerance for the treatment medications.

This is not an indictment of the individuals involved, it is simply a numbers game. Any individual, in any setting, under any circumstances, who had as much random unprotected sex as a porn star would experience the same.

If you’re ever in doubt, just follow my golden rule: Never have unprotected sex with someone you’re not totally comfortable asking to shave your anus.

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